Straight Outta Compton’s ‘Bye Felecia’ Scene

IS THE BYE FELICIA SCENE JUST DISSING SOME WOMEN OR ALL WOMEN?

In today’s world, fortunately, most women do have choices even though sometimes we don’t seem to be aware of them.

  • Who we spend our time with
  • Who we date and most
  • Who we sleep with
  • How we behavior

Men will treat you the way you treat yourself! In the movie STRAIGHT OUTTA COMPTON, ‘Felicia’ didn’t treat herself very well, she was cheating on her boyfriend with a man she didn’t know because he was famous.

Also, Easy’s character knew that she was with him because of his status and he treated her accordingly.

Felicia may be a fictional character but unfortunately, this type of situation happens all the time in real life.

Some women want bragging rights to say that they have slept with so and so but what does it do to their self-esteem in the long run.

To be used and toss aside may seem okay because he’s famous but your body remembers that you allowed yourself to be used by a man for his self-gratification. If a man thinks you’re a hoe, therefore, he will treat you as such even if he didn’t pay for it.

So a woman is left with nothing, no money, no relationship, no self-esteem and you may not even have an orgasm. We can blame men for their actions, lack of respect, etc, but we cannot control them.

However, what concerns me is that women do have control most of the time over their choices. And, if we don’t change the conversation to why are women choosing to have sex with men they don’t really know and then expect the men to treat them with respect; the next generation of girls will follow in our footsteps.

We have to stop letting men make us miserable because that takes control and the power away from us.  Women have to start looking at their self-esteem and self-worth because it starts with using the word “no” that’s when men will start to change; because women that will no longer allow themselves to be disrespected.

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We need to teach our young girls that it’s not okay no matter if he’s famous, cute, rich, etc because their body is a temple that it’s precious and needs to be protected and that they matter more than him.

Men can put women into categories, however, we don’t have to fit into those categories if we don’t want to. Women have a voice and you have legs which give you the power to walk away.

In this post-feminist society, we might want men to treat us as equal but I’m not sure that’s going to happen anytime soon, so instead let’s start by first treated ourselves like we matter.

So that scene in STRAIGHT OUTTA COMPTON, ‘ Bye Felicia’ won’t continue to happen because it happens all the time maybe you are not left naked in a hallway instead you wake up the next morning and ask yourself: what did I just do that? As he’s walking out the door saying, “I’ll call you.”

Don’t be a willing participant in your mistreatment!

There are a lot of great guys in the world that contribute a lot to our society but they don’t make the news very often. These great guys also know how to treat women with respect. Oh, and by the way, great guys don’t finish last in most cases they finished first you are just not paying attention to them.

 

Dahmenah

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